Meeting someone online at a bar, club, or party is as easy as finding the right opening line. Some girls don’t like the idea of being picked up at a bar, and may automatically shut down if presented with a bad pickup line.
Pickup lines don’t necessarily have to be the cheesy, boring, recycled lines that we often hear in movies. They can range from something simple as “want to do some shots?”, to the truly cringeworthy such as “I didn’t know angels could fly so low”.
If you are looking for an opening line to approach someone, you might just want to approach and say “what going on?”. A honest, non-threatening line often goes much further a bad attempt at being funny.
1) Do you wash your pants in Windex? I can see myself in them. 2) Excuse me, I lost my phone number, can I borrow yours? 3) What do you want for breakfast in the morning? 4) Do you have a map? I just keep on getting lost in your eyes 5) Can you stand still, so i can pick you up?
The above lies are horrible. If you use any of them it should be for amusement purposes only. If you have the right approach and delivery, there is a tiny chance the girl might think you are funny, but its not likely.
1) My friend over there wanted to know if you think i’m cute 2) Have a Boyfriend? Do You Want One? 3) (order them a drink) Here you go, come get me when you’re ready. 4) Does your boyfriend know your out so late? 5) Did you just smack my butt?
Lines like these aren’t necessarily funny, but they are different from the same boring lines that are often made fun of. They just serve to open the door for conversation. What you do with the person’s attention can mean the difference between success and failure.
The confidence that you project is really the main factor that will get in your way if you would like to approach a person at a bar. The best opening line will not work if you lack the confidence to deliver it properly. People can sense if you are scared or fearful through your body language and tone of voice.
One strategy that works well is treating it like a game. Don’t take rejection seriously and purposefully put yourself in awkward situations. The more often you do this, the more confident you will be. Go out with a group of friends with the intention of talking to alot of girls, regardless of success or failure. If you make it fun or funny, you are much more likely to not feel as anxious when approaching people.
One thing you should expect when approaching women at a bar, is that some hate being approached. They don’t feel comfortable in that type of situation. Almost anyone that tries to approach a person like this at a bar or club will be rejected. This type of person is usually very unfriendly and tends to stick with their own close friends.
Any attempt to get in on this circle of conversation will be met with resistance from this person. If you expect to have any chance with any of the girls in this group of friends, you must be nice to the “mother hen”. She will ruin any chance you have or try and get the other girls away from you. Being nice or making friends with this girl, will allow you to talk to and communicate with other people in the group.
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